{"id":18173,"date":"2021-06-12T09:20:32","date_gmt":"2021-06-12T14:20:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/livinglibrarian.com\/new\/?p=18173"},"modified":"2021-06-12T09:39:25","modified_gmt":"2021-06-12T14:39:25","slug":"the-circle-of-love-loss-and-heart-opening-selacia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livinglibrarian.com\/new\/the-circle-of-love-loss-and-heart-opening-selacia\/","title":{"rendered":"The Circle of Love – Loss and Heart Opening ~ Selacia"},"content":{"rendered":"

Written by Selacia<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Love between close friends and romantic partners evolves in a circle. It’s a bit like a dance, the two people over time becoming more bonded and more open with one another. This was always the case, yet in these times of uncertainty and shifting paradigms, the dance can be both more satisfying and more challenging. Continue reading for a big picture view of how this applies in your life.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Background<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

A key gift of all relationships is the helpful mirror they provide. After all, seeing oneself fully and clearly is problematic. That’s why we have each other!<\/span><\/p>\n

We all have an ego, plus substantial conditioning from either this lifetime or ancestors, that clouds our vision. It’s like we have a voice inside our head that continually asks: “Can I trust? Am I loved? Does this person really get me? Am I accepted for how I am? Does X that happened between us compromise our relationship? Does my being open about X make me look less than in his or her eyes?”<\/span><\/p>\n

The Element of Space<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

Knowing that this ego-based dynamic is part of the norm is helpful. Reminding oneself that this is common can bring space into any relationship. The element of space is perhaps the most underrated and underdeveloped quality in most relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Circle – Loss and Heart Opening<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

The circle of love typically encompasses both a sense of loss and heart opening. It’s an intrinsic part of the relationship “becoming” something else – something deeper. It’s the deep part that’s the most scary, for it means one must dive deeply into oneself to address what shows up in the relationship mirror. One must do this, even if the other person isn’t doing that, or is doing that on a more minimal level – a common occurrence.<\/span><\/p>\n

A relationship involves two separate souls – coming together for a certain amount of time for particular purposes. It’s a divine orchestration. Each person has his or her own unique soul path. This means that each person is responsible for their own part in the dance – allowing the other person space and time to address issues in their own way.<\/span><\/p>\n

Note: relationships can be between people – also with pets – the same applies.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love and Loss<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

To know love is to know loss:<\/span><\/p>\n