{"id":13322,"date":"2019-05-13T09:38:10","date_gmt":"2019-05-13T14:38:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/livinglibrarian.com\/?p=12812"},"modified":"2019-05-17T18:52:31","modified_gmt":"2019-05-17T23:52:31","slug":"moving-on-from-the-guilt-game-maria-chambers-living-librarian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livinglibrarian.com\/new\/moving-on-from-the-guilt-game-maria-chambers-living-librarian\/","title":{"rendered":"Moving On From The Guilt Game ~ Maria Chambers"},"content":{"rendered":"

For most of my life I thought that my sense of guilt was a product of my upbringing, \u00a0my parents wielded guilt in an attempt to keep me from doing things they deemed inappropriate. \u00a0And, to their credit, they were trying to protect me from what they perceived as a dangerous world, especially for a female.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

So I carried that guilt with me throughout my life, trying to extract it from my being. Eventually I began to realize that guilt has been part of the human condition, and it afflicted just about everyone to one degree or another.<\/p>\n

The emotion of guilt had its origin in the initial separation from source. \u00a0When we each individuated in an attempt to become sovereign beings. \u00a0Source wanted to separate itself into endless individual aspects in order to experience itself. \u00a0Which was great, but the problem was, then those aspects, which eventually included us humans, forgot who we were and started to feel like we did something wrong.<\/p>\n

Because we didn\u2019t feel spirit anymore. \u00a0 I won\u2019t go into it. \u00a0It\u2019s a whole thing,<\/p>\n

And so there is also the manufactured guilt that was being wielded in order to keep people in line. \u00a0Religions especially enjoyed their version. \u00a0You know, the whole sin, guilt and damnation thing. \u00a0But then, there are always those who kind of enjoy being controlled. \u00a0The idea of thinking for themselves is, well, unthinkable!<\/p>\n

But just because guilt is not real, it doesn\u2019t mean it hasn\u2019t directed our thoughts, and our actions. \u00a0How many times did we give into it? \u00a0How often did it stop us from doing something, in our heart, we knew we would really enjoy?<\/p>\n

How often did we compromise our own joy because of that emotion? \u00a0What kind of impact has it had on our physical health?<\/p>\n

You may have noticed something about guilt. \u00a0That it is going away. \u00a0Maybe not completely yet, but it seems to no longer have the grip it once did. \u00a0Of course some of us have been more susceptible to it than others. \u00a0No matter. \u00a0Once it begins fading into the distance, it will never affect us in that compelling way again.<\/p>\n

More and more we are acting from a place of joy, not obligation. \u00a0 So there may still be some residual guilt but now it doesn\u2019t stop us from trusting our choices.<\/p>\n

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I noticed something interesting about the emotion. \u00a0It is seductive. \u00a0It\u2019s a self-inflicted punishment, and it serves a purpose. \u00a0If we are busy feeling guilty about something, we don\u2019t have to deal with the actual issues. \u00a0One of which is self-trust, and self-respect.<\/p>\n

For me, it has mostly involved relationships. \u00a0In my own awakening, I have let go of many people in my life. \u00a0Not from a place of anger, but just from a place of knowing it was time to move on.<\/p>\n

Doing that was particularly difficult for me, what with my history of guilt. \u00a0In fact, the releasing of those people, family, friends, husbands, lovers\u2026.was more of a gradual process.<\/p>\n

After the breakups, some kept resurfacing in my life. \u00a0One in particular was becoming stalky. \u00a0Maybe my guilt kept subconsciously pulling him back in.<\/p>\n

The guilt was telling me that I was not trusting my own decisions. \u00a0The choice to move on from many relationships for me was perfect for my own awakening process. \u00a0Of course it\u2019s hard to explain that to those who are not at the same stage of this process.<\/p>\n

They end up taking it personally. \u00a0And they tried to make me the bad guy for their own reasons, and part of me took the bait. \u00a0I have been accused of being unconscious of my own motives, and they somehow knew better than me what those motives are.<\/p>\n

And the game ensued, because they were perceptive enough to notice that I still had some of that guilt going on.<\/p>\n

To simplify, the script read, they feel abandoned and I feel guilty. \u00a0Rinse and repeat.<\/p>\n

So guilt is a game, and it requires at least two players. \u00a0Because if one player opts out, the game is over. \u00a0Then the other player will just get tired or bored, and go home, or go find another player.<\/p>\n

Guilt and feeling abandoned also requires a love of drama. \u00a0There is lots of that involved. \u00a0Because those who feel abandoned love playing victim. \u00a0And they love pointing the finger at the bad, bad person who disappointed them.<\/p>\n

Those who feel abandoned are using the emotion of anger to avoid their feelings of sadness, or abandonment. \u00a0It\u2019s easier to blame someone else than to face themselves.<\/p>\n

Feeling guilty in its own way is also playing victim.<\/p>\n

Guilt is a way to avoid the responsibility of being aligned with our soul. \u00a0Because guilt is not an emotion the soul feels. \u00a0To our soul, guilt is not real.<\/p>\n

Nor is the emotion of feeling abandoned.<\/p>\n

So, guilt. \u00a0It\u2019s not real. \u00a0It has no place in the new consciousness. \u00a0It\u2019s not going to influence our choices anymore, and it\u2019s not going to erode our sense of joy.<\/p>\n

When we move on from relationships (even just emotionally, initially) there is a period of sadness and grieving on the human\u2019s part that needs to be honored. \u00a0And it could take some time. \u00a0But the sooner the sense of guilt is out of the picture, the quicker we can move on.<\/p>\n

I have noticed that those people who kept showing up after the breakup don\u2019t seem to be around anymore. \u00a0I suspect it has something to do with my confidence in my decisions. \u00a0I am, after all, a wise human angel.<\/p>\n

So, we wise human angels are moving on from guilt, and for some moving on from feeling abandoned. \u00a0Both emotions no longer serve us.<\/p>\n

\u00a9 Copyright 2018 Maria Chambers, all rights reserved. Please feel free to share this content with others but maintain the article\u2019s integrity by copying it unaltered and by including the author and source website link: Maria Chambers\u00a0http:\/\/www.soulsoothinsounds.wordpress.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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